Resources
Pre-Nuptial Resources
Stoner, Katherine. Prenuptial Agreements: Who Needs It and How Do I Make One?
http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/prenuptial-agreements-overview-29569.html
Stoner, Katherine. Prenuptial Agreement Benefits and Drawbacks
http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/prenuptial-agreement-benefits-drawbacks-29909.html
Prenuptial Agreements: Who Needs It and How Do I Make One?
http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/prenuptial-agreements-overview-29569.html
Pros and Cons: Premarital Agreements
http://family.findlaw.com/marriage/pros-and-cons-premarital-agreements-prenuptials.html
Why Engaged Couples Should Sign a Pre-Nup
http://www.bankrate.com/finance/personal-finance/engaged-couples-sign-prenup-1.aspx
Israel, Laurie. Ten Things I Hate About Prenuptial Agreements.
http://www.ivkdlaw.com/the-firm/our-articles/prenuptial-agreements-and-lawyering/ten-things-i-hate-about-prenuptial-agreements/
Divorce Resources
Here are some of the many issues the mediator will help the divorcing couple to address:
FORMS & LINKS
Forms Needed to file for Divorce in Massachusetts: http://www.mass.gov/courts/selfhelp/family/divorce-forms-to-file.html#Forano-faultdivorcewherebothpeopleagreeinalldecisions1Ayoumustfile:
Information on Required Parent Education Program for couples with minor children: http://www.mass.gov/courts/programs/parent-child/
Massachusetts Child Support Guidelines and Calculator: http://www.mass.gov/dor/child-support/guidelines.html
Planning for Shared Parenting:
http://www.mass.gov/courts/docs/courts-and-judges/courts/probate-and-family-court/afccsharedparenting.pdf
IRS Publication 504 (Tax information for divorced and separated individuals): https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p504.pdf
RELEVANT BOOKS AND ARTICLES
How to Handle the Impact of Grief and Stress During Divorce
What Should We Tell the Children
BOOKS FOR PARENTS
Barnes, R.G. You’re Not My Daddy: Winning the Heart of Your Stepchild. https://www.amazon.com/Youre–Not–Daddy-Robert-Barnes/dp/0849933447
Bonnell, Karen, The Co-Parents’ Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults
https://www.amazon.com/Co-Parents-Handbook-Well-Adjusted-Resilient-Resourceful/dp/1495345866/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1495345866&pd_rd_r=T6XYVK7FZS8FFCDH5N72&pd_rd_w=Bpt1D&pd_rd_wg=l7EzB&psc=1&refRID=T6XYVK7FZS8FFCDH5N72
Corder, Honoree. The Successful Single Mom.
https://www.amazon.com/Successful-Single-Mom-Your-Life/dp/0998073121/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0998073121&pd_rd_r=QKNS59Y5Y1YQ1D6MS077&pd_rd_w=OMmzq&pd_rd_wg=Yhj2z&psc=1&refRID=QKNS59Y5Y1YQ1D6MS077
Davis, R.F., Borns N.F. Solo Dad Survival Guide: Raising Your Kids on Your Own.
https://www.amazon.com/Solo-Dad-Survival-Guide-Raising/dp/0809229250/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969637&sr=8-1&keywords=Solo+Dad+Survival+Guide
Emery, R.E. The Truth About Children and Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Truth-About-Children-Divorce-Emotions/dp/0452287162/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969717&sr=1-1&keywords=the+truth+about+children+and+divorce
Engber A., Klungness L. The Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns.
https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Single-Mother-Reassuring-Challenging/dp/1593374909/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969783&sr=1-1&keywords=the+complete+single+mother
Long, N., Forehand, R. Making Divorce Easier on Your Child. https://www.amazon.com/Making-Divorce-Easier-Your-Child/dp/0809294192/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485971408&sr=1-1&keywords=Making+Divorce+Easier+on+your+children
McBride, Jean. Talking to Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Each Stage of Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Talking-Children-About-Divorce-Communication/dp/1623156858/ref=sr_1_13_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486054648&sr=1-13-spons&keywords=coping+after+divorce&psc=1
Neuman, M. Gary. Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce the Sandcastles Way.
https://www.amazon.com/Helping-Your-Kids-Divorce-Sandcastles/dp/0679778012/ref=pd_sim_14_6?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0679778012&pd_rd_r=45PY0VXMEX09RPD8P0NF&pd_rd_w=XLiO5&pd_rd_wg=13Vbd&psc=1&refRID=45PY0VXMEX09RPD8P0NF
Pedro-Carroll, JoAnne, Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Putting-Children-First-Parenting-Strategies/dp/1583334017/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1485965532&sr=1-1
Ricci I. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced or Remarried.
https://www.amazon.com/Moms-House-Dads-Making-homes/dp/0684830787/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485970172&sr=1-1&keywords=mom%27s+house+dad%27s+house
Stahl, PM. Parenting After Divorce: Resolving Conflicts.
https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-After-Divorce-Resolving-Rebuilding/dp/1886230846/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485970227&sr=1-1&keywords=Parenting+After+Divorce
Stoner, K.E. Divorce Without Court.
https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Without-Court-Mediation-Collaborative/dp/141332164X/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485970888&sr=1-1&keywords=Divorce+Without+Court
Teyber, E. Helping Children Cope With Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Helping-Children-Divorce-Revised-Updated/dp/078795554X/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485971018&sr=1-1&keywords=Helping+Children+cope+with+divorce
Trafford, Abigail, Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce & Building A New Life.
https://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Divorce-Building/dp/0062337408/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969427&sr=1-1&keywords=crazy+time+surviving+divorce+and+building+a+new+life
Woodhouse, Violet, et al., Divorce and Money: How To Make The Best Financial Decisions During Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Money-Financial-Decisions-During/dp/1413319955/ref=sr_1_cc_1?s=aps&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969169&sr=1-1-catcorr&keywords=Violet+Woodhouse%2C+Divorce+and+Money
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN
Blume, J. It’s Not the End of the World. Ages 8-12.
https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-World-Judy-Blume/dp/1481411160/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1485967621&sr=1-1
Brown, Marc and Brown, L.K., Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families. Ages 4-8. https://www.amazon.com/Dinosaurs-Divorce-Guide-Changing-Families/dp/0316109967/ref=pd_sim_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0316109967&pd_rd_r=XMGV2HB1SM7CWZ11HD8E&pd_rd_w=w5ms8&pd_rd_wg=XcLfC&psc=1&refRID=XMGV2HB1SM7CWZ11HD8E
Cassella-Kapusinski, Lynn, Now What Do I Do?: A Guide to Help Teenagers With Their Parents’ Separation of Divorce. Ages 10 and up.
https://www.amazon.com/Now-What-Do-Teenagers-Separation-ebook/dp/B002KQ639E
Cole, J. How Do I Feel About My Parents’ Divorce? Kindergarten to Grade 4. https://www.amazon.com/How-Feel-About-Parents-Divorce/dp/0749640952/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485967519&sr=1-1&keywords=how+do+I+feel+about+my+parents+divorce
Danziger, Paula, Amber Brown Sees Red. Ages 7-10.
https://www.amazon.com/Amber-Brown-Sees-Paula-Danziger/dp/0142412619/?tag=babble002-20
Gray, Kes. Mom and Dad Glue. Ages 5-8.
https://www.amazon.com/Mom-Dad-Glue-Kes-Gray/dp/0764162624/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485971803&sr=1-1&keywords=Mom+and+Dad+Glue
Higginbotham, Anastasia, Divorce Is The Worst. Ages 4-8.
https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Worst-Ordinary-Terrible-Things/dp/1558618805/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485967996&sr=1-1&keywords=Divorce+is+the+worst
Holyoke, N. A Smart Girl’s Guide to Her Parents’ Divorce. Ages 9 and up. https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Girls-Guide-Parents-Divorce-ebook/dp/B007TBXNAW/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485966500&sr=1-1&keywords=a+smart+girls+guide+to+her+parents+divorce
Lansky,Vicki and Prince, Jane, It’s Not Your Fault Koko Bear. Ages 3-7. https://www.amazon.com/Your-Fault-Koko-Bear-Read-Together/dp/0916773477/ref=zg_bs_3050_15?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=N6HX262DMX1HWX20VTGS
Masurel, Claire, Two Homes. Ages 3-7.
https://www.amazon.com/Two-Homes-Claire-Masurel/dp/0763619841/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0763619841&pd_rd_r=Z8828WCBNCEJK1YG2Q2R&pd_rd_w=tv0pV&pd_rd_wg=5tGTM&psc=1&refRID=Z8828WCBNCEJK1YG2Q2R
Parr, Todd, The Family Book. Ages 2-5.
https://www.amazon.com/Family-Book-Todd-Parr/dp/0316070408/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1485966654&sr=1-1
Rogers, Fred, Let’s Talk About It: Divorce . Ages 4-8.
https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Divorce-Rogers/dp/0698116704/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485966388&sr=8-1&keywords=Let%27s+Talk+about+divorce
Rogers F., Let’s Talk About It: Step Families. Ages 4-8.
https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Stepfamilies-Rogers/dp/0698116658/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485967093&sr=8-1&keywords=let%27s+talk+about+it%3A+stepfamilies
Stern, Zoe, Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids. Ages 8-12. https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Not-End-World-Coping/dp/1582462410/ref=pd_sim_14_4?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1582462410&pd_rd_r=AX8Y7CZ5VMSBC8J1025W&pd_rd_w=afv9H&pd_rd_wg=qWFoh&psc=1&refRID=AX8Y7CZ5VMSBC8J1025W
Thomas, Pat, My Family’s Changing. Ages 4-7.
https://www.amazon.com/My-Familys-Changing-First-Look/dp/0764109952/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0764109952&pd_rd_r=XMGV2HB1SM7CWZ11HD8E&pd_rd_w=w5ms8&pd_rd_wg=XcLfC&psc=1&refRID=XMGV2HB1SM7CWZ11HD8E
ARTICLES
How to Handle the Impact of Grief and Stress During Divorce:
http://openpalmlaw.com/stress-during-divorce-blog/
Divorce Ain’t Pretty But It Doesn’t Have to Get Ugly – http://collaborativefamilylawsandiegoblog.com/divorce-aint-pretty-but-it-doesnt-have-to-get-ugly/
Forging a Divorce Narrative for Your Young Adult Children http://www.mydivorcerecovery.com/forging-a-divorce-narrative-for-your-young-adult-children/
Help Your Children Cope with Divorce by Co-Parenting With Less Conflict
http://gabardi.com/2013/05/22/help-your-children-cope-with-divorce-by-co-parenting-with-less-conflict/
The Divorced Co-Parent’s Vacation Planning Checklist
http://gabardi.com/2013/07/03/the-divorced-co-parents-vacation-planning-checklist/
Is Holding On To My Marital House Really Worth It?
http://njcollaborativeprofessionals.com/blog/is-holding-on-to-my-marital-house-really-worth-it/
RESOURCES FOR PARENTS
A website with a shared calendar for co-parents. This website provides a private, secure messaging center for communicating with the co-parent, as well as a way to keep track of children’s expenses and who paid what: www.Co-Parently.com
Zero to Three.org: https://www.zerotothree.org/parenting
Post-Divorce Resources
A website with a shared calendar for co-parents, a way to keep track of child expenses and who paid what, a private, secure messaging center for communicating with the co-parent, etc.:
www.Co-Parently.com
Post Divorce Financial Checklist.
http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/post-divorce-financial-checklist
Corder, Honoree. The Successful Single Mom.
https://www.amazon.com/Successful-Single-Mom-Your-Life/dp/0998073121/ref=pd_sim_14_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0998073121&pd_rd_r=QKNS59Y5Y1YQ1D6MS077&pd_rd_w=OMmzq&pd_rd_wg=Yhj2z&psc=1&refRID=QKNS59Y5Y1YQ1D6MS077
Davis, R.F., Borns N.F. Solo Dad Survival Guide: Raising Your Kids on Your Own.
https://www.amazon.com/Solo-Dad-Survival-Guide-Raising/dp/0809229250/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969637&sr=8-1&keywords=Solo+Dad+Survival+Guide
Engber A., Klungness L. The Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns.
https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Single-Mother-Reassuring-Challenging/dp/1593374909/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969783&sr=1-1&keywords=the+complete+single+mother
Hay, Louise. You Can Heal Your Heart: Finding Peace After a Breakup, Divorce, or Death
https://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Heart-ebook/dp/B00F8KX75W/ref=sr_1_11?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486054648&sr=1-11&keywords=coping+after+divorce
McBride, Jean. Talking to Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Healthy Communication at Each Stage of Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Talking-Children-About-Divorce-Communication/dp/1623156858/ref=sr_1_13_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486054648&sr=1-13-spons&keywords=coping+after+divorce&psc=1
Novak, Janelle. How to Move On After a Divorce: An Essential Guide to Coping with Divorce, Moving On, and Creating a Happy New Life
https://www.amazon.com/How-Move-After-Divorce-Essential/dp/1532869924/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486054648&sr=1-1&keywords=coping+after+divorce
Pedro-Carroll, JoAnne, Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce.
https://www.amazon.com/Putting-Children-First-Parenting-Strategies/dp/1583334017/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1485965532&sr=1-1
Rabinor, Judith Ruskay. Befriending Your Ex after Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids, and, Yes, Your Ex.
https://www.amazon.com/Befriending-Your-Ex-after-Divorce-ebook/dp/B00AHDCKS0/ref=sr_1_8?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486054648&sr=1-8&keywords=coping+after+divorce
Ricci I. Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced or
Remarried.
https://www.amazon.com/Moms-House-Dads-Making-homes/dp/0684830787/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485970172&sr=1-1&keywords=mom%27s+house+dad%27s+house
Stahl, PM. Parenting After Divorce: Resolving Conflicts.
https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-After-Divorce-Resolving-Rebuilding/dp/1886230846/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485970227&sr=1-1&keywords=Parenting+After+Divorce
Trafford, Abigail, Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce & Building A New Life.
https://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Time-Surviving-Divorce-Building/dp/0062337408/ref=sr_1_1_twi_pap_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1485969427&sr=1-1&keywords=crazy+time+surviving+divorce+and+building+a+new+life
Elder Care Resources
Here are some of the many issues the family of an aging person may face that the mediator can help them to address and resolve:
A Place for Mom
www.aplaceformom.com
Online Alzheimer’s Test:
https://wexnermedical.osu.edu/~/media/Files/WexnerMedical/Patient-Care/Healthcare-Services/Brain-Spine-Neuro/Memory-Disorders/SAGE/Forms/sage-form-2-us.pdf?la=en
“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.”
~ Max Lucade
To learn more or to schedule a consultation with Susan, contact her at 781-374-2168 or by email at susan@sksmediation.com